Reject The Victim Mentality

One of the keys to winning the war within is to take responsibility for your fight. The culture we live in cultivates people that are not responsible for anything. Nothing is ever our fault. We are a society of irresponsibility. We love to blame others for the things we have done. We are in a society of irresponsibility. Blame society, blame the government, blame the environment, blame heredity, blame your parents, blame your spouse, blame the devil, and even blame God.

Virtually nothing is ever our fault. We are but victims in the tragedy of life. This is the victim mentality that our culture seeks to impose on us all. It is also a mentality that we must reject if we are going win our battle with temptation. We must not make bad choices and then blame God or anyone else.

But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.” James 1:14 (NKJV)

Notice where the Bible says our temptations come from. They come from within us. We will talk more about this in a minute. But for now I just want us to see the main reason we have to take responsibility for our fight. We would not be tempted to do these things if there wasn’t already a desire within us to do them. We must take responsibility for our temptations.

Not only must we take responsibility for our temptations we must take responsibility for our failures. Here is a truth that we need to get a hold of. Any temptation that comes into your life can be resisted. No Christian is ever tempted beyond the point that they can resist.

This is a hard pill to swallow if we like to make excuses as to why we have fallen into sin. But the truth is, if we are Christians and fall into sin, we made the choice that led us there. How can I make this statement with such certainty? Because of what the Bible says.

No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 (NKJV)

From this verse I can say with complete confidence that there is no temptation that can ever overcome you, me or any Christian. In every temptation that we will face, our faithful God will ensure that there is a way for us to escape the temptation. Our almighty and all-faithful God sets us up for success. Each and every time we give in to temptation and fall into sin it is because of choices that we made. We choose to reject or ignore God’s way of escape and we choose to give in to our temptation. If you are a believer, then this is what you do each and every time you sin.

But God be thanked that though you were slaves of sin, yet you obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine to which you were delivered. And having been set free from sin, you became slaves of righteousness.” (Romans 6:17-18 NKJV) We were slaves but Christ has freed us.

The victim mentality says, “I can’t help it. There is nothing I can do.” The victim mentality is a slave mentality. To give up the victim mentality I must truly believe that Christ has set me free from slavery to my flesh. I must also accept that sin is a result of choices I willingly make and not a default setting over which I have no control over.

We must take responsibility for our temptations. We must take responsibility for our failures. We must also take responsibility to fight these temptations. You and you alone are responsible to fight the war within you.

Fighting the war within you is not responsibility of your parents, your spouse, your church, your pastor or any other person on the planet. If you and I are to win the war within us, then we must reject the victim mentality and accept our responsibility to fight this battle.

How have you seen this victim mentality enslave you or others to sin?

What can you do to protect yourself from the victim mentality?

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