“Look on my right hand and see, For there is no one who acknowledges me; Refuge has failed me; No one cares for my soul.” Psalm 142:4 (NKJV)
David seemed to think that no one in the world cared about him. David’s loneliness almost certainly played off his feelings of despair and seriously compounded his feelings of isolation. David really felt like he didn’t have a friend in the world. He felt like no one cared about whether he lived or died.
There are probably people reading this that feel this way or have felt this way at some point. Despite being in a crowd of people, you feel all alone. Since we have been conditioned to think this is unspiritual, we don’t pour this out to God. When we don’t feel like we can take it to God, it increases our feeling of loneliness. I mean, if I can’t talk to the One who is supposed to always be with me about my feelings of loneliness, then obviously I can’t talk to anyone about it. This adds misery upon misery in our loneliness.
The Gaither Vocal Band sing an old song and part of it says, “I don’t know a thing in the whole wide world that’s worse than being alone.” You know, that is true. To feel that your life doesn’t matter to anyone is a horrible feeling to have. If this is how you feel, then pour out your isolation to God. He honestly cares about your feelings. He created us to need others.
Now I don’t want to dismiss your feelings of loneliness, they are probably very genuine. However I would like to say to you that most likely, you are not as alone as you think you are. David wasn’t. As I said, I am convinced that his feelings of despair added to his feelings of loneliness. The two just look so connected to me in this passage. While he obviously felt that no one cared about what happened to him, this just wasn’t an accurate picture of his life. How do I know this? Because I have read the story of David’s life from God’s Word. Let’s review a couple of things about David’s life to see that there were people who cared about him.
First, there were two people who were absolutely instrumental in his escaping from Saul. Who were they? Well, one was his wife Michal. To understand how important her help is, we need to remember who she was before she married David. She was the daughter of King Saul, the very man that was trying to kill David. She loved and cared about David’s life more than she loved and cared about her father being pleased with her.
The second person was David’s friend Jonathan. Once again, we must remember who Jonathan was. He was the son of King Saul, the very man trying to kill David. He loved and cared more about David’s life than he did his own. It would appear that Jonathan was next in line for the throne after Saul. The only thing that could have prevented Jonathan from being king would have been David living. Jonathan cared more about David’s life than he did about getting to be king himself. That’s a pretty big deal. So obviously, there were people who cared about David’s life a great deal.
Why should we pour out our hearts to God about our isolation? Because I am convinced that God cares about our feelings and when we are honest with Him about these things He works in our lives to heal us and to help us. When David wrote this psalm he was in a cave, again we are not totally sure which cave it is. However, when he was in the cave of Adullam could have been when this was written. If so, this was written just after he escaped from Jerusalem and Saul’s wrath. If this is when he wrote this psalm, then after he prayed this as his prayer God did something great for David.
“David therefore departed from there and escaped to the cave of Adullam. And when his brothers and all his father’s house heard it, they went down there to him. And everyone who was in distress, everyone who was in debt, and everyone who was discontented gathered to him. So he became captain over them. And there were about four hundred men with him.” 1 Samuel 22:1-2 (NKJV)
David wasn’t alone anymore. God sent people to David to help relieve his feelings of isolation. When we pour out our hearts to God about our feelings of isolation, He will respond and help. He will place you on someone’s heart and send them to you, or He will remind you of people in your life who care about you and would gladly be there for you in your time of need. Pouring out our isolation to God encourages us when we are discouraged.
When have you felt like you were all alone in the world?
What did you do in that time?
How can pouring your heart out to God help?
Who do you know that may feel this way right now? How can you help them?