20 Things I Want My Girls To Know And Do pt 4


This week I’m blogging a letter I’m writing to my girls. This started on Monday, continued Tuesday, Wednesday and will continue all week long.

Take time to help others. Life is busy that’s just the way it is. It doesn’t matter what you do in life, you are going to be busy. There are always going to be things that need to be done. There will probably never come a time when you have it “all” finished because as soon as one thing is finished something else comes along that needs to be done. The certain busyness of your life is sure to make you think that you are too busy to help others. You aren’t. Never allow yourself to believe that you are too busy to help others. You may not be able to help everyone but you can certainly help someone. Do what you can to help. Buy them groceries. Pay their power bill. Stay up to 0300 listening to their problems. Pray for them. Pray with them. You are never too busy to help. You are never too important to help. There is more to life than you, your wants and your preferences. There are other people that are important and may desperately need someone to help them. Be that someone. Do what you can, when you can to help others.

Know the difference between a man and a male. You know me well enough to know that this is hugely important for me. I’ve always said, and I mean it, that if you bring home some skinny jean wearing, feather haired sissy boy I’m going to make him cry. All kidding aside, I’m really not kidding, it is important for you to know the difference between a male and a man. Understand that just because someone is physically a male that is at least 18 years old that doesn’t necessarily make them a man. Male is the gender, but being a man is a statement about his character. A man is a male that takes his responsibilities seriously, does the things he was supposed to do and refuses to do the things he isn’t supposed to do. Being a man involves your character, integrity and honor. A man will respect you. A man will treat you like a lady. A man will defend you. A man will respect your standards and boundaries. A male will pressure you, abuse you, use you and leave you. Know the difference between a man and a male and choose a man.

You are more than your looks. You girls are so very pretty and you are growing into such beautiful young women. However, you must understand that you are more than your looks. The world we live in so often defines women, especially young women, by their appearance. There is so much pressure on young women to be pretty or sexy that many young women end up defining themselves by their looks. Don’t. Please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. You know that your mother is awful good looking. And you know that we both workout, kinda sorta eat right and try to look good. There is nothing in the world wrong with this. But understand that there is far more to your mother than her looks. She is smart, wise, caring, compassionate and just all around wonderful. Your mother’s character is just as attractive as her appearance is. Focus at least as much on your character as you do on your looks. Focus at least as much on your intelligence as you do on your looks. Focus at least as much on wisdom as you do on your looks. Focus at least as much on your depth as you do on your looks. Be a deep book and not just a flashy picture. You are more than your looks so be more than your looks.

Run away with The Doctor if you get the chance. One of the easiest things in life to do is play it safe and never take risks. Playing it safe won’t require you to do much beyond what you need to do to take care of your daily business. The problem with this is that you miss out on so very much in life. You miss out on seeing a risk pay off. You miss out on seeing God do something big in your life. You miss out on all kinds of amazing experiences in life. You also end up with regrets and what if’s. You regret the opportunities you miss. You wonder what if you’d taken that chance. Refuse to always play it safe. If you don’t know what to do, do something. It’s better to do the wrong right thing than it is do nothing. Do something to try and make the world a better place. Do something that requires faith. Do something to bring glory to Jesus. A life of faith should be an adventure in one way or another. This is one reason I always made you girls do things that you were scared to do. This why we are adventurers when we go to the park. Don’t let life and opportunities pass you by while you are playing it safe. So if you hear the familiar whooshing of the TARDIS run to it and if The Doctor invites you to come with him GO! Just be sure to call your mother and I every once in a while to let us know how you are doing.


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  1. Regarding running away the Doctor, I would add a short piece of advice: “Please go back to the time when I was just a little boy and deposit a large sum of money into a bank account for me so that I am filthy rich by the time you girls come along”

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