Therefore hear me now, my children, And do not depart from the words of my mouth. Remove your way far from her, And do not go near the door of her house, Proverbs 5:7-8 (NKJV)
In this section Solomon stresses the importance of what he is about to say. He tells his son to never depart from this one piece of advice about temptation. Run away! Run fast, run far, and run away. He goes on to tell him not to even go near her house. He doesn’t say, don’t go in her house. He says don’t even go near the door to her house. Stay as far away from temptation as you can.
The idea is that we should be very careful not to even put ourselves in a place where we could be tempted. When it comes to sexual temptation, this isn’t the time to say, “I can handle it.” This isn’t the place to say, “I’ll keep it from going that far.” No, Solomon says don’t even go near. Don’t put yourself in a position to be unfaithful. The Bible gives us lots of warnings about this.
“Do not enter the path of the wicked, And do not walk in the way of evil. Avoid it, do not travel on it; Turn away from it and pass on.” Proverbs 4:14-15 (NKJV)
“Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” 2 Timothy 2:22 (NKJV)
Do you see the same picture here? Don’t even go near… Flee from it…Run away…Don’t put yourself in that position…
Why is it so important that we flee from temptation?
For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? Proverbs 5:20 (NKJV)
The word “enraptured” in my New King James is also translated as “captivated” New Living Translation & New International Version, “intoxicated” English Standard Version.
It is an interesting word that carries with it the idea of inadvertently straying away. In other words, the person that becomes intoxicated or captivated or enraptured doesn’t set out to stray but they do. This word is often used to describe the errors people make when they are drunk.
I think this is a great way to see what happens when someone allows themselves to get too close to someone who is not their spouse. The people who plan to destroy their marriage through infidelity are few and far between. In fact, I think it’s pretty safe to say that most never really intended for it to get that far. They let it go that far not because they are trying to destroy their marriage but because they have allowed themselves to become “enraptured”, “captivated” or “intoxicated” in lust for another person.
Think about how a drunk person acts. Drunk people are basically driven by instinct. I’m personally convinced that the way a person acts when they are drunk, is probably the best picture of who they really are that you’ll ever see. People don’t get drunk and become racists. They are racists that know that sort of behavior is not acceptable and so they keep guards up to keep it from coming out. The alcohol lowers those guards and allows them to be who they really are.
People don’t get drunk and become violent. They are naturally violent people who know that sort of behavior is not acceptable and so they keep guards up to keep it from coming out. The alcohol lowers those guards and allows them to be who they really are. People don’t get drunk and become obnoxious loudmouths. They are obnoxious loudmouths that know that sort of behavior is not acceptable and so they keep guard up to keep it from coming out. The alcohol lowers those guards and allows them to be who they really are. A person that is intoxicated with alcohol operates on almost pure instinct. They think it and so they say it or they do it.
In a similar way, a person that is “enraptured”, “captivated” or “intoxicated” in lust is going to operate on an almost instinctual level as well. They have become inflamed by lust and so they are going to find a release. Once they allow themselves to get to the place that they are “enraptured”, “captivated” or “intoxicated” in lust, they are going to act on their instinctual sexual impulses and find a release for this urge that is driving them. They are going to find a release by looking at the pornographic website. They are going to find a release by acting on their sexual desire for this other person. This is why it is so important that we completely remove ourselves from this point of temptation.
For further study read Matthew 5:27-30.
How does Jesus explain the spirit behind the law against adultery?
How does He say to guard against it?
What might this look like on a practical level?