“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;” 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NKJV)
Love Suffers Long-This is the opposite of short tempered. Such love bears with certain annoyances or inconveniences without complaint. It does not lose its temper when provoked. When I love someone I won’t fly off the handle in anger at every little thing.
Love Is Kind-Kindness takes the initiative to respond to needs. Such love is considerate and helpful to others. Kind love is gentle and mild, always ready to show compassion, especially to those in need. Kindness here means to be as kind and compassionate to others as God has been to us. Kindness takes the initiative in responding generously to others’ needs. When I love someone I will actively seek to meet their needs.
Love Does Not Envy– The jealous person desires what another person has. This seems to have been a particular problem in Corinth—those with “lesser” gifts envied those with “greater” gifts. Jealousy is actions and words that come from suspicious fears. The Bible has quite a bit to say about human jealousy—all of it bad. Why are jealousy and envy so bad?
“But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.” James 3:14-16 (NKJV)
That is pretty stiff stuff. It is impossible for us to be filled with jealousy and love for someone at the same time. One will eventually overpower the other. When jealously is the one to overpower it will eat at us until we are doing things either privately or publicly to make sure the person we are jealous of is “put in their place.” Jealousy gives the devil a place in our lives and he will use that place to destroy the relationship we have with the person we are jealous of. This is true in any relationship we have anywhere.
Love Does Not Parade Itself And Is Not Puffed Up– While some believers may have a problem with envy, those with the “greater” gifts might have a problem with boasting or pride. Again, it seems that this may have been a problem in Corinth. Gifted believers who are caught up in pride and boasting over their gifts are unable to serve God or others acceptably. They may feel that by using their gifts, they are doing someone a favor, that others should be grateful to them, and that they are far superior.
We cannot be prideful and Christlike at the same time. Pride is a characteristic of Satan not of Jesus. If we are filled with pride we must realize whom we are being most like. Pride is destructive because it involves wanting too much recognition, taking too much credit, wanting your own way, thinking your way is always the best way. In other words it’s thinking too highly of yourself. It will cause you to face the world from a selfish point of view, blinding you to your faults and leading to jealousy, envy, and a judgmental attitude toward others. When we become proud in our hearts we start looking down on those we think we are better than. It’s real hard to have a genuine love for someone you feel you are better than. When I love someone I won’t treat them as if they were inferior to me